After the baptism of time, I finally understand:
What destroys traders is not the market, but three kinds of mental demons:
① Expectation addiction: Always wanting to catch every wave, feeling anxious when missing out. But the market is not a lover; it won't give you opportunities just because you try hard.
② Emotional revenge: After losing once, wanting to quickly win it back. Trades made in such moments are 90% likely to be the beginning of a nightmare.
③ Illusion of confidence: After making a small profit, feeling like you can see through the market. In reality, that’s just the trend giving you face, not your strength. Those who can get over it save themselves, while those who cannot keep falling in the same place.
I once thought trading relied on "courage." Later, I realized that true courage is: being able to remain in cash when you should, admitting mistakes when you can; waiting when you can wait, and maintaining silence amidst all the noise.
The first lesson the market taught me was losing money, the second lesson was being quiet, and the third lesson was to train myself to be a person who is not swayed by the market. Now I increasingly believe in a saying: the market never rewards smart people; it only favors those who are patient.
A trader's true growth is not about the account getting bigger, but about the mind becoming steadier, understanding without being anxious; holding on without being arrogant; being able to take losses without panicking; waiting long without being flustered. It turns out that the biggest enemy on the trading path has always been ourselves.
As I write this, I also want to ask you: When did you realize that the real loss is not money, but the mind? Perhaps your story is the redemption of another trader.