BE LESS CALCULATING AND BE MORE RELAXED WITH OTHERS.
In real life, let's be less calculating with others, be less strict with ourselves, and in trading, let's also stop obsessing over each pip and each candle… then you will naturally feel lighter, and trading will be easier. The market will also be less tense for you, and you will no longer feel like the market is “harassing” you, but rather like you are “going along” with it.
There was a time when I, like many others, always wanted to catch the whole wave, from the bottom to the top, not missing a single pip. But later I understood: no one can catch the whole wave forever, trying too hard will only lead to failure.
Especially right after a big win, when you make a lot of profits, you start to regret some small trades. “If I had known, I would have gone in with a larger volume, I could have made 2x or 3x by now…”, that very thought is when you start calculating with the market.
Many think that if they have 100k, they will earn a few tens of thousands of dollars each month, which adds up to 400,500 million per month, it sounds good in theory, but in practice, it's entirely different. Even if you can earn it, you will quickly lose it back. Why? Because you are not skilled enough to manage that 100k account.
In fact, the market pays you based on your ability, mentality, experience, and capital at that time, just like when you work, if you are a staff member, you will receive a staff salary at the end of the month, and if you are a manager, you will receive a salary higher than that of the staff member. If you are a staff member but demand a manager's salary, how can the “market boss” accommodate that? The profit you achieve must align with your ability, mentality, and financial position circumstances at that time.